One of the things I realized this pandemic “took from me" this last year and a half, was my habit of DREAMING. To dream of a life I’ve been working so hard to create. Vacations I wanted to take, things I wanted to do, people I wanted to see, adventures I wanted to have, projects I wanted to sell, and things I wanted to buy. Dreams of a life and a version of myself I couldn’t wait to get to. I don't know about you, but at a certain point I felt like I couldn't work towards those dreams anymore, cuz there's only so much we can "do" right now, so any and all planning just seemed like a cruel joke, and I stopped all of it. Including the dreaming, apparently. I thought – “No big deal. I can wait a few weeks. Or months. Or a year. Or, I guess…as long as it takes.” And then I just sat there. Broken-hearted and kinda hopeless. Aimless. Confused. Empty. And then I did something NOT so smart, and started comparing myself to everyone else and how THEY were handling a global pandemic. (As if there's a rulebook for this or something.) Anyway - I kindly and lovingly asked all my "shoulds" to take a back seat for a minute, so I could get curious and go deep and see what was really going on with me. What I found was really intriguing and I bet I'm not alone! You can read more below, but basically here's where I'm at after a year+ of serious soul-searching: I get it - we're still not out of the woods yet, but here’s a course of action I think might be worth taking regardless: DREAM ANYWAY. Wouldn’t it be more fun to work TOWARDS something instead of fighting a battle you’ve already lost? What if we could just trust that it’s all in Divine Timing, dream big, live for the now, and let the rest go? It’s actually easy to be bitter, mean, sad and angry. It’s a much braver move to live in the light. To be optimistic and stand FOR something, instead of just raging against everything. But we can do it. It’s the only way out, as far as I can tell. And I think we get there together. So…what do you want to see in this New World we can dream up together? Beauty, Vitality, Health, Ease, Joy, Abundance, Kindness, Love, Equanimity, Equality, Peace? Comment below and let me know. It’s all possible. We just have to decide, and then begin. Keep reading if you want to hear some of the ideas I have on HOW to do this. But either way - please COMMENT BELOW and let me know what YOU'RE dreaming of! And I hope you know how grateful I am to have you here, Dear Reader! Wishing you all good things...
How did we get here and how do we dream ourselves out of it? Without meaning to, throughout my whole life I think I was operating under a belief of “if”. IF I get disappointed, IF my heart gets broken, IF I’m ashamed or embarrassed about that thing, IF I lose the people I love, IF they don’t believe or understand or see me for what I really am, IF these relationships/jobs/experiences come to an end… “IF ______ happens, then I’ll __________.” But there’s a problem with “If – Then” living. Just that thought pattern alone indicates not only a deep fear of the inevitable, but also a belief that you can out-think the stuff of life. As if these things are an option - when in fact they’re a guarantee. They’re NOT an IF, they’re a WHEN. (Hard to swallow and might get you to stop reading, but hang in there with me!) Sure, they may not happen in the way you think, or around the thing or person you’re thinking of right now. But at some point – all these things will happen to you and you will have the normal reactions to these life events that all humans do. And that terrifies most of us. So we create these mythos and beliefs around them, as if we can out-smart Life. When in reality, we WILL be heartbroken, disappointed, and ashamed. We WILL fail and be embarrassed and mess up. We WILL be misunderstood and feel quite alone. These are guaranteed parts of life, but we don't have to be scared of them anymore. And contrary to what our brains might think, that doesn’t make us weak, stupid or less than. It makes us human.
So what happens when we instead, come from a place of COMPASSION and ACCEPTANCE?
If these ARE inevitables, then we can just accept that, and stop trying to out-think or out-run them. We don’t have to focus on or obsess over them either, but maybe we can just relax a little bit and focus on something else. Because yes: we are constantly co-creating our own reality. And we can CHOOSE what to focus on. We can CHOOSE what to celebrate and give thanks for. We can CHOOSE how we show up, and what we do, and what we work towards, and how we rest. We get to CHOOSE all those things. How about this? We start by accepting the inevitable. We feel into the pain of that reality, and we give ourselves a big hug when all the feelings come up around it. And then we go, “well – that’s life. It’s not personal, and it’s not my fault. And what I know for sure – is that I’ve got today! And that’s pretty great!” Then what if we all work towards holding a vision of the world we want to live in. The lives we want to lead, the people we want to be with and the future we want to see. We hold a vision for the present we want to rest in. And THAT’S where we place our attention. It’s not about yelling at each other or constantly weeping about the past. Feel your feelings, absolutely, but what’s done is done. What world do you want to live in now, and in the future? If we hold that vision of health for the planet and ourselves, a vision of kindness, compassion, joy and great peace and unity. If we hold that vision of love and understanding – no matter how outlandish it seems, wouldn’t that at least FEEL better? Who cares if people make fun of you, or me, for believing a world like that is possible? They’re gonna make fun of us for something. It’s a guarantee. So we can stop running, stop avoiding, stop hiding, and DREAM ANYWAY. We can do it our way – and when we have this vision of a happy, healthy and harmonious future for ALL living beings, then the next step is easy. You may not get there in your lifetime, and you’ll almost certainly mess up along the way, but wouldn’t it be more fun to work TOWARDS something instead of fighting a battle you’ve already lost? Trust that it’s all in Divine Timing, dream big, live for the now, and let the rest go. It’s easy to be bitter, mean, sad and angry. It’s much scarier and a much braver move to live in the light. To be optimistic and stand FOR something, instead of just raging against everything. But we can do it. It’s the only way out, as far as I can tell. And we get there together. So…what do you want to see? Beauty, Vitality, Health, Ease, Joy, Abundance, Kindness, Love, Equanimity, Equality, Peace? Comment Below and let me know. It’s all possible. We just have to decide... and then begin. Ready, set, go!
Sending love always - and I’ll meet you in the light.